It’s been a while since my last post, and I’m sorry about that—I’ve been a little busy over the past few months—but it feels so good to finally write again. During the time that I was gone, I graduated college, got a job, and moved across the country to San Diego. It’s been a whirlwind, but I’m finally settling into my new home.
Although moving can be terrifying, San Diego has welcomed me with open arms. I love discovering its beaches, trying new foods, and attempting to fit into a ‘Cali lifestyle’. I’ve met some incredible people, and I’m slowly falling in love with this new city that’s found its way into my heart.
While moving to a new city can be exciting, it can also be nerve-racking to find yourself in a place where you don’t know anyone. For anyone else who’s going through a similar experience, I’ve made a list of things you can do to help you better adjust to a new area:
Learn to do things alone. When you’re new in a different city, you probably won’t know anyone. Hence, you might want to stay in your room all the time and avoid stretching your comfort zone. But learning to do things alone can make you grow as a person. If you really want to try something/visit someplace/go to an event do it alone! This will help you further your confidence and independence.
Participate. Although it’s easy to want to avoid being the new person, that won’t help you meet new people. You are the new person, embrace it! The only way you’ll make new friends is if you participate, even if it makes you uncomfortable. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone to events all by myself, and felt like the odd-one-out, but I pushed myself and grew because of it. Take some risks, and you won’t regret it!
Explore. You’re in a new city, go out and explore it! Google the best places to visit. Invite acquaintances to hang out with you. Try new things! If you’ve moved someplace new, that’s officially your new home—for however long you plan on staying there. Go out and get to know it. A good way of doing this is making a list of things you want to do/see, and actually following through with it.
Have a positive outlook. It’s easy to fall into a negative mindset when you’re a newbie. But comparison is a thief of joy. Don’t compare where you are to all the other places you’ve lived. Look at the bright side. Remember—joy is a choice—and it starts with you choosing to have a positive outlook. Nowhere is perfect, but your mindset can make it as close to perfect as can be.
Say yes to everything. (That’s good for you, of course!). Chickening out on doing things because you’re scared or uncomfortable is a silly reason not to participate. If someone invites you to go hiking at 7 a.m. on a Saturday (even though you hate getting up early) go! If someone invites you to an event where you don’t know anyone, go! The more you say yes to things (again, things that don’t go against your morals) the more well-rounded you will become. It’s okay to be uncomfortable because you will stretch yourself, and grow as a person!
These are a few things I have learned after moving. At times it’s been frightening, but it’s also been absolutely worth it!
Here’s a video of my move: